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Confronting the Plague of Narcissist Pastors

Let Us Prey - The Plague of Narcissist Pastors and What We Can Do About It (Revised Edition). 


It's in production and will be available for order very shortly. 

Jesus warned us about wolves coming into the Church disguised as shepherds. Instead of protecting and nurturing the flock, they feed off it. Under their sacred-sounding words is the most destructive evil ever to attack the Church - Pastors with malignant narcissism.

That's right - it's a cancer and must be cut out or the patient will die.

They are here. It's happening now.

Let Us Prey will help you to recognize them. It will guide you in dealing with them.

If you value your church, then this book is a must-read. It is based on solid, peer-reviewed research (in plain English), my 40+ years in conflict management, and my own experiences with them.


Welcome to Heartbeat Conflict Consulting, online conflict consulting for faith communities.

My name is Darrell Puls and I have worked in organizational conflict management for more than 40 years.  Whether large or small, religious or secular, public or private, conflicts within organizations cost much more than many think. It includes lost time, lowered quality, sabotage, increased sick time, poor morale, employee turnover, and drastically lowered support from members and customers.

Organizational conflicts that are allowed to grow, and they WILL grow unless positive steps are taken, can eventually destroy the enterprise.

I am a professional mediator, researcher, writer, and conflict interventionist with more than 40 years of experience and training. I have served churches and denominations across North America as an on-site consultant, interventionist, and Peacemaker. 

In recent years I have specialized in researching, writing, and working directly with churches that have a pastor with strong narcissistic problems.

I am available by phone for consultations.

Call or email me. Initial consultations are always free. 
Phone: 509.308.2737

Dr. Darrell Puls

Healing after a narcissist pastor is impossible without authentic forgiveness!

That does not mean that the pastor faces no consequences or that what he or she did was acceptable. Just the opposite. It means that what happened was real and it did real harm to the congregation! It means that we as members must confront what happened head on. We must remember clearly - and examine ourselves for how we treated each other during the conflict. We must then offer - and seek - healing forgiveness from each other. 

Churches that have been through destructive conflict face a dilemma: they know they need to forgive and reconcile, but pastors rarely have any training in how to lead the process. And so they guess, but it almost always ends at a place where they declare, "Now we just have to leave it up to the Holy Spirit" and hope for the best.

No more! This dynamic, Holy Spirit-led process opens the doors to authentic forgiveness and healthy reconciliation. It takes wounded relationships into deep healing and leaves them stronger than they were before the conflict.

The Road Home is the perfect companion book to We Pray, They Prey - Recognizing and Countering Narcissist Pastors. Every church that has experienced a toxic narcissist pastor will have deep, festering wounds that cry out for healing.

The contents and premises of  The Road Home  have been scrutinized by top scholars, researchers, and practitioners. The foreword is by Everett Worthington, Jr., one of the most famous and respected forgiveness researchers and writers in the world. The book has also been endorsed by Dr. Tim Clinton, President of the American Association of Christian Counselors, and Dr. Paul Regan, President of the Christian Association for Psychological Studies.

The Road Home is available from booksellers worldwide in paperback and digital formats, including.